Parent Resource: The Difference between Bullying, Aggression and Teasing

Bullying always involves aggression.  Aggression becomes bullying when it is repeated over time between the same individuals and there is a power imbalance.

Aggression behaviour is conflict that may be intentional or unintentional, direct or indirect.  It can take many forms, including physical, verbal and social.  It can be experienced in a number of ways including physical, mental, emotional and psychological harm.

Teasing becomes hostile when it implies interpersonal rejection and social exclusion, rather than camaraderie and social inclusion.

Teasing can be positive or negative.

Positive Teasing:

  • Illustrates closeness, affection, and familiarity with another person
  • Person being teased is not distressed
  • Takes place within a strong relationship
  • Strengthens the relationship

Negative Teasing:

  • Alienates, criticizes, and embarrasses the other person
  • The person being teased is distressed
  • Takes place within a weak relationship
  • Undermines the relationship

When does teasing become bullying?

  1. Teasing
  2. Is equal and reciprocated
  3. Is fun and not hurtful
  4. Often occurs prior to aggression
  5. Aggression
  6. Is conflict
  7. Can be intentional or unintentional
  8. Could be one time
  9. Can lead to BULLYING
  • Bullying
  • A form of typically repeated, persistent, and aggressive behaviour
  • Directed at an individual or individuals that is intended to cause fear

Critical Questions to Identify Bullying, Aggression and Teasing
How to identify Bullying, Aggression and Teasing

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